Self-Care is More Than a Hashtag – You Need to Do It
As a mother of three, I can’t tell you the last time I had a pedicure, my eyebrows groomed, or a good massage! We get so caught up in caring for the babies that we forget about ourselves. Men, on the other hand, might not have this struggle.
When I met #Husbae in college, I always loved how he was always so well put together. Clothes always neat, haircut always on point, etc. He hasn’t changed LOL and I must admit that I look at him like, HOW DO YOU HAVE THE TIME?
I think I may have an answer, but first I want to share why I think this is something that is important for every mom. After giving birth to surprise baby No. 3, I haven’t really focused on my self-care at all.
It has been all about healing, bonding and adjusting to this new life. It has been challenging, but my motto is to take it one day at a time. But as a mother, I am always focused on the well being and the convenience of others.
I think men see experience fatherhood differently. Now, don’t rush to the comments to post about how I am putting men down (including my husband).
Don’t get me wrong — he has definitely been helpful in his own way, and he’s a great dad! However, I sometimes sit and wonder how he is able to make time to work out, play basketball, and kick it with friends.
But you know what? He does what I am too afraid to do.
Take time for me.
Why can’t I do the same thing? Well, I know why … I have serious guilt and feel bad for taking the well-delivered time for myself.
Why do I feel that way?
I don’t know! It is so frustrating! However, I am glad that I am seeing this for what it is. I am not mad that he practices self-care the way that works best for him. I am mad that I don’t think I deserve the same thing and instead I put myself last. What’s worse? I don’t speak up and say how I feel about it, and I should.
This year, I am going to make a more conscious decision to focus on self-care. Like I always say, you can’t pour from an empty cup and now more than ever my cup is running on EMPTY.
Now that I have identified the issue, the next question is, “What am I going to do about it?”
For every problem, there is a solution.
5 ways I will practice self-care:
- Make time every month for a spa day.
- Get my eyebrows, nails, and lash extensions done.
- Read a book that will help me elevate my business
- Spend time alone
- Saying no to the things that drain my energy
When you are constantly on the go and trying to accomplish goals, it is hard to make time for self-care. It will be a priority in 2020.
Are you with me? Let me know in the comments below.
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