Self Care.

As a mother of three, I can’t tell you the last time I had a pedicure, my eyebrows groomed, or a good massage! We get so caught up in caring for the babies that we forget about ourselves. Men, on the other hand, might not have this struggle. 

When I met #Husbae in college, I always loved how he was always so well put together. Clothes always neat, haircut always on point, etc. He hasn’t changed LOL and I must admit that I look at him like, HOW DO YOU HAVE THE TIME? 

I think I may have an answer, but first I want to share why I think this is something that is important for every mom. After giving birth to surprise baby No. 3, I haven’t really focused on my self-care at all.

It has been all about healing, bonding and adjusting to this new life. It has been challenging, but my motto is to take it one day at a time. But as a mother, I am always focused on the well being and the convenience of others. 

I think men see experience fatherhood differently. Now, don’t rush to the comments to post about how I am putting men down (including my husband). 

Don’t get me wrong — he has definitely been helpful in his own way, and he’s a great dad!  However, I sometimes sit and wonder how he is able to make time to work out, play basketball, and kick it with friends. 

But you know what? He does what I am too afraid to do.

Take time for me.

Why can’t I do the same thing? Well, I know why … I have serious guilt and feel bad for taking the well-delivered time for myself.

Why do I feel that way?

I don’t know! It is so frustrating! However, I am glad that I am seeing this for what it is. I am not mad that he practices self-care the way that works best for him. I am mad that I don’t think I deserve the same thing and instead I put myself last. What’s worse? I don’t speak up and say how I feel about it, and I should.

This year, I am going to make a more conscious decision to focus on self-care. Like I always say, you can’t pour from an empty cup and now more than ever my cup is running on EMPTY.

Now that I have identified the issue, the next question is, “What am I going to do about it?” 

For every problem, there is a solution.

5 ways I will practice self-care:

1. Make time every month for a spa day.
2. Get my eyebrows, nails, and lash extensions done.
3. Read a book that will help me elevate my business
4. Spend time alone
5. Saying no to the things that drain my energy

When you are constantly on the go and trying to accomplish goals, it is hard to make time for self-care. It will be a priority in 2020.

Are you with me? Let me know in the comments below.

Dear Mamma’s You Need To Stop Being So Hard On Yourself