Maternity Leave Needs To Be Longer For Working Women
Today, I broke down.
Yes, I, Tiffany Brown, broke down in tears. Some of you can probably relate; others may not quite understand. Being a working mom has its challenges. But being a working mom at 37 with a newborn is completely a different challenge all in itself.
I am blessed to have a job that offers insurance and, more important, maternity leave. But…
I don’t know why some people think that 4 weeks, 8 weeks and even 12 weeks is enough time to spend with a newborn. Let me guess: The people who are making the rules are men. I would have never thought I would be the one to share a post like this. It’s so personal and yet, I have to state my stance on this topic.
After having baby E, I desperately wanted not to return to my job. I mean, we survived just fine prior to me returning to work in 2019. It was a sacrifice, but we made it work. Don’t get me wrong: The income is nice, the comfort of having a job is nice, but it is not what I want to do anymore.
I want to stay at home with my baby. My LAST baby.
Is that too much to ask for? But instead, I am having to return to work because someone in their ivory tower said that 12 weeks is enough time to stay home and bond with my baby. Mind you, I was only approved for paid maternity leave for 8 weeks. This was because I had a c-section. In the next 2 weeks I had to use my discretionary leave and for the last 2 weeks (12 weeks) of maternity leave is UNPAID leave.
Let me type that again…
Now, I am not bothered by the fact that it is unpaid, but the fact that it’s only 12 weeks. After that, I guess my job wouldn’t be there when I return. I’m getting emotional just typing this. Now more than ever, I know my purpose is more than working for someone else.
I was made to be more — do more — but out of comfort I have to stay and work a job versus being at home with my baby. If it were up to me, I would vote for a minimum of 12 months for maternity leave.
That’s fair, right?
Recently I had a call with my Human Resources manager and we were discussing my return to work date. For some reason, I had one date and she had another. Needless to say, I have to return to work sooner than I expected and I cried.
I cried HARD. Like, a seriously UGLY cry.
We (Moms) should not have to choose between our children and our jobs. With all these emotions, I am trying my best to look at the positive and to start creating a plan to become the full-time entrepreneur that I am meant to be. My time at home may be coming to an end, but I honestly feel like it will be the start of a new beginning.
My goal is to return to my job and be great at it. I will pay off some things and continue to build my brand behind the scenes. This is what will keep me going.
I am not doing this for me but for the 3 amazing little humans who call me mom.
What are your thoughts on maternity leave? Share them with me in the comments.
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