When you meet “The Representative”.

When you meet the representative you know the representative the person that shows up and paints a pretty picture of who they are but they’re really not that way. That’s who we’re going to be discussing on today’s show when you meet the representative and how to handle it.

Today’s post it’s in regard to some things that I have had to deal with personally and I thought that I would share my story in hopes to help you navigate through dealing with it as well.

The representative is a term that I’m using because we all have them. The Representative is the person that shows up that paints a beautiful picture, who tells a story. Either that they are good for a job, or they are good to start a relationship with.

The thing about it is when it comes to meeting a person’s representative we meet the part of them that is not always the genuine part. It is not true to the person that they really are. For example, you could see for example you could meet somebody in person right. You watch their videos you tune in.

You’ve always longed to be in their presence. You may want to meet them because you’re such a huge fan. But then they come to town and you’re excited. They’re having a speaking engagement or they’re making an appearance and you go up to them and you ask for a photo. The attitude that they giving you is not the same person that they perceived or expected them to be.

They’re not the same person. They’re completely different.

That is what I mean by the representative. A representative is a person that paints that picture that shows up the way that they think that they should be showing up.

That creates this facade of how they want to be seen but when the rubber meets the road it’s a different conversation. You know we always meet a person’s representative we never really truly get down to the nitty-gritty of who they truly are as a person.

I have done business with people who I thought were good at the job that I commissioned them to do. But it turned out that they were not a good fit.

We need to be true to who we are at all times.

We need to be authentic at all times.

Because when the crap hits the fan and things don’t go the way that we thought they would go then it puts a strain on the relationship that we have been trying to foster. Where they come from? What did I do?

I thought you know we were cool. I thought everything was good and all of a sudden everything changes.

You have just met their representative you have met in the beginning who they wanted you to perceive them to be. You never did meet their true self like you have to get behind the scenes of who people really are.

Listen now To Episode 009: The Representative 

For all of my entrepreneurs out there, all of my women who are trying to be entrepreneurs, who are trying to get their brands and projects off the ground hear me when I say… make sure that you know who you’re dealing with upfront.

If it takes time to do a little research to ask questions to really get into the nitty-gritty about a person’s history, do it! You may need to do interviews for projects etc. ESPECIALLY if you are investing your hard-earned coins!

Make sure you know who you are dealing with, more importantly, make sure you know what you’re getting yourself into. Because I guarantee you’re meeting their representative and it’s going to save you a nice little burn in the long run.

We’re all trying to paint this picture that we’re perfect.

People will try to deceive you into believing that life is wonderful. That’s not the reality and we have to learn to ask those tough questions to really get down to see people for who and what they really are.

Sometimes there is not a happy ending. It can end with broken relationships and hurt feelings. On top of all of that, the situation can be so bad that you’ll never work with that person again. You’ll never have any kind of communication with that person again. And that’s not good.

All I ask is that for all of you entrepreneurs, bloggers, brand people who are helping others you know kind of get their brands off the ground and kind of help them through that process.

Show up and you’ll be true to what you say that you’re going to do for someone.

Because in the long run, it hurts both parties. And we’re all in this together, we’re all trying to figure out where we fit in.  I want to be able to be happy and live the best life that I possibly can.

We can do better.

We all can do better in some sense when you show up for someone to show up. Be who you are, be true to who you are because at the end of the day you being authentic in the long run is going to help you more so than showing up as a representative.

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