EP 001: The Path Of Most Resistance
The Path of Most Resistance. Have you ever thought to yourself, am I on the right path.? Is this the direction in my life really should be going in right now?
I know I’ve had that struggle. I’m sure many of you have had that struggle as well. And trust me, it is a struggle. It’s tough and frustrating to really figure out what path you should be on. Hopefully, in today’s show I’ll be able to shed some light on some questions that maybe you can ask yourself to help you figure that out.
I want to tell you a little story about me.
There are many many things I love to do. There are many things that I’m passionate about. And trust me this did not come easy for me. It came through trial and error. It came through failing at numerous things and spending a lot of money on things that I thought I needed that I thought I wanted to do and it just didn’t feel right.
Within my gut, I knew something wasn’t right. So what happened to me is, I mentioned I’m a sales professional. In 2009, I was let go from a job that I worked very hard to be a part of. I interviewed for two years straight before actually landing the job. After 3 years, there were major layoffs within the entire industry.
There I was, sitting there on my bed, sobbing uncontrollably because I really didn’t think I was going to get cut. But I got cut and I’m sitting there thinking to myself What now. What am I supposed to do now?
I don’t have a job.
I worked so hard to get this job. What am I going to do now? When a company comes and picks up your company vehicle tells you to turn in your corporate cards and cuts you completely off. It is a life changer.
It is an eye-opening experience.
And from that moment I knew I just felt within myself that there’s something else I should be doing for me.
I had someone pouring into me into my spirit into my life telling me Tiffany you’re really good at makeup you’re very passionate about makeup. Maybe you should start your own makeup artistry business.
I was like chile, please! I can’t do makeup on anybody else like I can only do my own makeup.
But low and behold that went little seed that was planted has led me to do so many different things to work with you know movie stars to work on set to be in magazines. And I say that all to say is that sometimes one door closes another one opens but you will feel in your soul that this is the right thing.
This is exactly where I need to be.
Don’t think that I have it all figured out. Like I said I’ve been around the block with figuring out my path. I have had failures. I’ve shared a lot of tears. I’ve spent a lot of money but in the end, I always have this sense of calm and peace about my journey when I know that I’m on the right path. A lot of times I will run into people or have the opportunity to meet other people that start speaking to me and start giving me that confirmation that I’m on the right path.
It is always good to get to know other people go out have conversations do some meetups. Figure out what they’re interested in and figure out how they speak to you because you never know. Out of that one conversation, it could be the confirmation that you are on the right path.
Today I’m going to be giving you three questions that you need to ask yourself to see if you’re on the path of most resistance.
1. What do you love to do?
What do I love to do? What is that thing that you can do over and over and over again? It is your happy place. Like what is that thing that just gives you the butterflies and gets your adrenaline rushing. What is it? What do you love to do?
2. What are you especially good at?
What is that thing that you know without a shadow of a doubt that you are good at this is nobody else can do it like you? You have a thing for it is your niche. And that is all you. What is that thing or things?
3. Where can you use your talents to make the greatest contribution?
If you are service oriented like I am, your contribution is going to mean so much. Because you get so much fulfillment out of it. You’re going to feel like, you know what this is it! This is exactly where I need to be.
I have another funny story for you. And it’s not really funny is actually a serious story but I remember years ago being a makeup artist I always wanted to attend New York Fashion Week but I wanted to attend New York Fashion Week in the capacity of being a makeup artist. You know key makeup artist or assistant key makeup artist well that never happened.
Last year, I had the opportunity to attend New York Fashion Week. It was on a whim, seriously, decided I was going to call my sister up. We booked our tickets and BAM, we were there. We were in the place.
I still get chill bumps talking about it.
So we’re walking the streets of New York. We have our bag on our shoulder. We have our camera on deck because we’re going to take all of these fashion photos in New York and we’re going to have these ready for our blog and for Instagram accounts and I get there standing in the middle of the city and I had this epiphany like I just felt like something wasn’t right. I was like you know I really want to take these pictures, but I’m not feeling it. So my sister whips out my heels that were in the bag that we were carrying around and I put my heels on.
In that moment, I realized where I needed to be, in that moment I felt that if it wasn’t for me being at the right place at the right time in this instance at New York Fashion Week I would have never really understood my purpose and what gets me excited and why do all these fashion photos and you know why do I take all these pictures.
I realized at that moment that I’m a petite girl.
There are so many petite women out there that there’s no realm for them to go get you know corporate styling advice or inspiration. So all of this was birth right there in the streets of New York. So that’s when I started to look at what I do in a different light. I want to be a service to other people so I want to be of service in the fact of being petite.
We have our struggles you know little people we have struggles you know so how can I share that with other women to help inspire them. This is this is cool like we can still do fashion the same way as if we were walking down the runway. No, we might not be six feet tall but hey we can make this work. And in that moment of putting those heels on my feet in the streets of New York.
I knew I was exactly where I needed to be.
The key to surviving those times when you doubt your path is just to remember that you do have a path. Everyone has a path whether you are taking steps on that path now or not.
You have a path. You have a purpose.
You are on this journey we call life. And so there is something for everybody. We were born with a purpose, it is instilled in us. It just may take us a little while to figure it all out. I really hope that this podcast sheds some light and gave you some questions to really think about and ask yourself to see if you are on the path of most resistance. If you’re on that path of most resistance nine times out of ten you are headed in the right direction.
Don’t give up. Keep pushing my friends, keep pushing. And it’s all going to work out.
There are times when we lose our mojo and we fall into a rut of not being motivated, and not really wanting to do anything. But let me tell you now it will come back to you. It will come back. There’s going to be something stirring in your soul, that’s just not right. You can’t rest your thinking about it all the time or somebody says something to you or you see a picture on social media and it’s going to spark that interest all over again and get you re-inspired just have the courage to have a vision for your life.
And when you do when you take this step towards making that vision real then you’ll know you’re on the right path.
What if we all walked our path? What if we committed to this journey? What if we didn’t try to make ourselves wrong for wanting to do it differently? What if we fed the curiosities and the nudges that we have within our gut? And what if we can know for sure what our path is?
Honestly, I believe that we are all here to unleash the power of our souls to live a life that is our highest authentic expression to walk a path that is ours and not someone else’s. Before I close out the show I just want to say remember this one thing if you remember nothing else that I’ve said today…
The only way you can get lost is when you walk a path that isn’t yours.
Thanks so much for tuning in you guys. Follow me over on Instagram @thepwordpodcast or a personal account @tiffanydbrown_ until next week.